Monthly Archives: May 2012


O men, how long shall my honor be turned into shame?
How long will you love vain words and seek after lies? Selah  (Psalm
4:2 ESV)

According to Wikipedia the definition of pop psychology is, “The term
popular psychology (frequently called pop psychology or pop psych) refers to concepts and theories about human mental life and behavior that are purportedly based on psychology and that attain popularity among the general population.” 

This from Wisegeek,” Pop psychology includes a wide and ever-changing set of theoretical practices popularized by general public acceptance.”

Although the world has psychologists, the Christian has the Wonderful Counselor, our Creator, the One who knows our hearts and thoughts.  We have His book at our fingertips, but how many Christians rely on theories and current trends to get through their problems?

David was a man who was chased for years by King Saul who wanted him dead.  I would think that would be mighty stressful.  How did he survive without running to a therapist?  He turned first to the Lord and His word. 

Be gracious to me, O God, for man tramples on me;
all day long an attacker oppresses me;
my enemies trample on me all day long,
for many attack me proudly.
When I am afraid,
I put my trust in you.
In God, whose word I praise,
in God I trust; I shall not be afraid.
What can flesh do to me?
(Psalm 56:1-4 ESV)

I will bless the LORD at all times;
his praise shall continually be in my mouth.
My soul makes its boast in the LORD;
let the humble hear and be glad.
Oh, magnify the LORD with me,
and let us exalt his name together!
I sought the LORD, and he answered me
and delivered me from all my fears.
(Psalm 34:1-4 ESV)

The law of the LORD is perfect,
reviving the soul;
the testimony of the LORD is sure,
making wise the simple;
the precepts of the LORD are right,
rejoicing the heart;
the commandment of the LORD is pure,
enlightening the eyes;
the fear of the LORD is clean,
enduring forever;
the rules of the LORD are true,
and righteous altogether.
More to be desired are they than gold,
even much fine gold;
sweeter also than honey
and drippings of the honeycomb.
Moreover, by them is your servant warned;
in keeping them there is great reward.
(Psalm 19:7-11 ESV)

Seeking counsel is biblical, but it must be godly counseling.

Blessed is the man
who walks not in the counsel of the wicked,
nor stands in the way of sinners,
nor sits in the seat of scoffers;
(Psalm 1:1 ESV)

For the wisdom of this world is foolishness in God’s sight.
(1 Corinthians 3:19 NIV)

Listen to advice and accept instruction,
that you may gain wisdom in the future.
Many are the plans in the mind of a man,
but it is the purpose of the LORD that will stand.
(Proverbs 19:20-21 ESV)

The fear of the LORD is the beginning of knowledge;
fools despise wisdom and instruction.
(Proverbs 1:7 ESV)

Here are two excellent quotes by Don Matzat.  You can find them here at this very informative website.

If we ever doubt any of the promises of God and experience fear, guilt, or worry,  we should turn back to the Bible and again read and meditate upon the promises of God.  [Don Matzat, Truly Transformed, (Eugene, Oregon: harvest house publishers, 1992, p. 165]

For this reason we preach the same message of Christ crucified, risen, ascended, and coming again Sunday after Sunday after Sunday. We always need to be reminded to turn our eyes upon Jesus – the Jesus of the New Testament who died for us and rose again.”[Don Matzat, Truly Transformed, (Eugene, Oregon: harvest house publishers, 1992, p. 165]

We need to focus on Jesus and not on ourselves and our problems.  This is why it is a good thing to preach the gospel to yourself everyday, “Christ DIED for MY sins, He rose from the dead and defeated sin and death.”  It puts things back in perspective.

“Churches have looked to psychology to fill the gap, but it isn’t going to work. Professional psychologists are no substitute for spiritually gifted people, and the counsel that psychology offers cannot replace biblical wisdom and divine power. Moreover, psychology tends to make people dependent on a therapist, whereas those exercising true spiritual gifts always turn people back to all-sufficient Savior and His all-sufficient Word.” – John MacArthur

If you are thinking of joining GCM because it is a site dedicated to attached parenting from a “Christian” perspective, please be aware it is NOT.  In the GCM forums there is more talk based on psychology than there is talk based on the Bible.  In time I will be exposing this in greater detail.

The wisdom of the prudent is to give thought to their ways,  but the folly of fools is deception. (Proverbs 14:8 NIV)


Young couple with baby.

In my last post I asked the questions: Does it [meaning graced based discipline (GBD)/ (GCM)] lead to arguments between you and your husband and has it interfered with your relationships causing divisions where there should be none?  Let us look at what the Bible teaches us about relationships.

Do nothing from selfish ambition or conceit, but in humility count others more significant than yourselves. (Philippians 2:3 ESV)

We, in our sinful nature, want to do things our way.  Sometimes we forget that our spouses have a different way of looking at things, and if we would take the time to listen to them, we would find a better solution to a problem.  Do you treat your spouse as more significant than yourself or is selfish ambition and conceit getting in the way (i.e. You know how to parent and your husband doesn’t – “I want parenting to be done my way because my way is right” “I am the one that researches and knows everything there is to parenting so this is the way it WILL be done.”  If this is your attitude, let me remind you of some scripture: Proverbs 16:18 says, “Pride goes before destruction. and James 1:19 says, “be quick to hear, slow to speak.”)?

Bless those who persecute you; bless and do not curse them. Rejoice with those who rejoice, weep with those who weep. Live in harmony with one another. Do not be haughty, but associate with the lowly. Never be wise in your own sight. Repay no one evil for evil, but give thought to do what is honorable in the sight of all. If possible, so far as it depends on you, live peaceably with all. (Romans 12:14-18 ESV)

Are you striving for peace in your relationships to your husband, parents, siblings, etc?  Or is GBD/GCM creating a division that you feel is ok because you are right and they are wrong?  This all goes back to: Is GBD your gospel?  If you think GBD is the ONLY way to go and you lessen anyone because they view parenting differently than you, you are not striving to live at peace.  The gospel is not grace based discipline.  The wonderful gospel is Christ was crucified for our sins and rose victorious over sin and death.

“Honor your father and your mother, that your days may be long in the land that the LORD your God is giving you.” (Exodus 20:12 ESV)

Whoever troubles his own household will inherit the wind, …(Proverbs 11:29 ESV)

Let all bitterness and wrath and anger and clamor and slander be put away from you, along with all malice. Be kind to one another, tenderhearted, forgiving one another, as God in Christ forgave you. (Ephesians 4:31-32 ESV)

God is kind, merciful and loving. Praise be to God.  If you see that you are the cause of relationship problems, confess your sins, turn from them and praise God for His forgiveness through Jesus Christ!

If you are thinking of joining GCM or if your wife has joined, these are things to be aware of.  They do have a tendency on that site of treating graced based discipline as the gospel which causes division in their relationships with others.


“Man’s mind is like a store of idolatry and superstition; so much so that if a man believes his own mind it is certain that he will forsake God and forge some idol in his own brain.” -John Calvin

“Grace will save a man, but it will not save a man and his idol.” -A.W. Tozer

As Christians we need to always be examining ourselves. We do not want sin to take hold of our lives because we want to be slaves to righteousness (Romans 6:18) not to sin.  Yes, Christians can and do sin, but we know that if we confess our sins, He is faithful and just to forgive us our sins and cleanse us from all unrighteousness (1 John 1:9).

GCMers, let us look at the sin called idolatry. If anything is as important as God (or more so), then it has become an idol. Please take time to examine your heart in this matter. You might not like what you find and it might not be pleasant, but God’s Word says, “put to death therefore what is earthly in you…” (Colossians 3:5).

Has graced based discipline (GBD) and (GCM) displaced God in your life?

Is it of greater value to you than God Himself?

Has GBD become your gospel?

Has it interfered with your relationships, causing division where there should be none?

Does it lead to arguments between you and your husband?

Is everyone who does not practice GBD evil (or really bad) in your eyes?

Do you only want to interact with people on the site and not with others (including your church) who may have a different view than yours?

Has it become everything to you?

Scripture to meditate on:

“You shall have no other gods before me.” Exodus 20:3 ESV

Therefore, my beloved, flee from idolatry. 1 Corinthians 10:14 ESV

And we know that the Son of God has come and has given us understanding, so that we may know him who is true; and we are in him who is true, in his Son Jesus Christ. He is the true God and eternal life. Little children, keep yourselves from idols. 1 John 5:20-21 ESV

If then you have been raised with Christ, seek the things that are above, where Christ is, seated at the right hand of God. Set your minds on things that are above, not on things that are on earth. For you have died, and your life is hidden with Christ in God. Colossians 3:1-3 ESV