Monthly Archives: May 2013

The Lord’s Discipline

This is not an exhaustive list.

Strong’s #3256 (used 43 times in the Old Testament) – a primitive root; to chastise, literally (with blows) or figuratively (with words); hence, to instruct:–bind, chasten, chastise, correct, instruct, punish, reform, reprove, sore, teach.

Know then in your heart that, as a man disciplines his son, the Lord your God disciplines you. So you shall keep the commandments of the Lord your God by walking in his ways and by fearing him.
(Deuteronomy 8:5-6, ESV)

O Lord, rebuke me not in your anger, nor discipline me in your wrath. Be gracious to me, O Lord, for I am languishing; heal me, O Lord, for my bones are troubled. My soul also is greatly troubled. But you, O Lord—how long?
(Psalm 6:1-3, ESV)

O Lord, rebuke me not in your anger, nor discipline me in your wrath! For your arrows have sunk into me, and your hand has come down on me.
(Psalm 38:1-2, ESV)

And now, O Lord, for what do I wait? My hope is in you. Deliver me from all my transgressions. Do not make me the scorn of the fool! I am mute; I do not open my mouth, for it is you who have done it. 10 Remove your stroke from me; I am spent by the hostility of your hand. 11 When you discipline a man with rebukes for sin, you consume like a moth what is dear to him; surely all mankind is a mere breath! Selah
(Psalm 39:7-11, ESV)

Understand, O dullest of the people!  Fools, when will you be wise? He who planted the ear, does he not hear? He who formed the eye, does he not see? 10 He who disciplines the nations, does he not rebuke? He who teaches man knowledge— 11  the Lord—knows the thoughts of man, that they are but a breath.  12 Blessed is the man whom you discipline, O Lord, and whom you teach out of your law, 13 to give him rest from days of trouble, until a pit is dug for the wicked. 14 For the Lord will not forsake his people; he will not abandon his heritage; 15 for justice will return to the righteous, and all the upright in heart will follow it.
(Psalm 94:8-15, ESV)

I shall not die, but I shall live, and recount the deeds of the Lord. 18 The Lord has disciplined me severely, but he has not given me over to death.
(Psalm 118:17-18, ESV)

Be warned, O Jerusalem, lest I turn from you in disgust, lest I make you a desolation, an uninhabited land.”
(Jeremiah 6:8, ESV)


Correct me, O Lord, but in justice; not in your anger, lest you bring me to nothing. (Jeremiah 10:24, ESV)

I have heard Ephraim grieving, ‘You have disciplined me, and I was disciplined, like an untrained calf; bring me back that I may be restored, for you are the Lord my God. (Jeremiah 31:18, ESV)

Fear not, O Jacob my servant, declares the Lord, for I am with you. I will make a full end of all the nations to which I have driven you, but of you I will not make a full end. I will discipline you in just measure, and I will by no means leave you unpunished.”
(Jeremiah 46:28, ESV)


Thus will I put an end to lewdness in the land, that all women may take warning and not commit lewdness as you have done.
(Ezekiel 23:48, ESV)


Strong’s #4148 (used 50 times in the Old Testament)- properly, chastisement; figuratively, reproof, warning or instruction; also restraint:–bond, chastening ((-eth)), chastisement, check, correction, discipline, doctrine, instruction, rebuke.

O LORD, do not your eyes look for truth? You have struck them down, but they felt no anguish; you have consumed them, but they refused to take correction. They have made their faces harder than rock; they have refused to repent. (Jeremiah 5:3 ESV)

O LORD, in distress they sought you; they poured out a whispered prayer when your discipline was upon them. Like a pregnant woman who writhes and cries out in her pangs when she is near to giving birth, so were we because of you, O LORD;
(Isaiah 26:16-17 ESV)

“Thus says the LORD of hosts, the God of Israel: Go and say to the people of Judah and the inhabitants of Jerusalem, Will you not receive instruction and listen to my words? declares the LORD. The command that Jonadab the son of Rechab gave to his sons, to drink no wine, has been kept, and they drink none to this day, for they have obeyed their father’s command. I have spoken to you persistently, but you have not listened to me. I have sent to you all my servants the prophets, sending them persistently, saying, ‘Turn now every one of you from his evil way, and amend your deeds, and do not go after other gods to serve them, and then you shall dwell in the land that I gave to you and your fathers.’ But you did not incline your ear or listen to me.  Therefore, thus says the LORD, the God of hosts, the God of Israel: Behold, I am bringing upon Judah and all the inhabitants of Jerusalem all the disaster that I have pronounced against them, because I have spoken to them and they have not listened, I have called to them and they have not answered.”
(Jeremiah 35:13-17 ESV)

Shepherding a Child’s Heart

"Shepherding a Child's Heart"My sister would tell me how bad the book Shepherding a Child’s Heart is because the author, Tedd Tripp, says you MUST spank.  Does Tripp really emphasize obedience over God’s compassion and mercy?  I had recently  heard a snippet of his talk on parenting on Wretched Radio.  I was impressed with what I heard; he was very gospel focused, but spanking was not mentioned.  So I finally decided to read the book and see what all the fuss was.

Tedd Tripp’s overview of parenting: “It involves being authorities who are kind, shepherding your children to understand themselves in God’s world, and keeping the gospel in clear view so your children can internalize the good news and someday live in mutuality with you as people under God.” – [page xvii]  I would say this sentence clearly states what his emphasis is throughout the entire book.   Tedd Tripp does an excellent job of emphasizing the relationship needed between parent and child as well as the gospel being the foundation of parenting/discipline.

Do I agree with everything Mr. Tripp wrote?  No, and most of what I don’t agree with comes from the part of the book on spanking.  I agree with spanking as a way to discipline (teach).  I agree that we need to take God’s Word seriously.  “If you fail to spank, you fail to take God’s Word seriously.  You are saying you do not believe what the Bible teaches about the import of these issues.  If your child has not obeyed, he needs to be spanked.” – [page 149]  I do not agree though that every time your child disobeys he needs to be spanked.  We know from the New Testament that discipline will be painful at the time, not that it has to be physically painful though.  I do believe Tripp has the proper interpretation of Proverbs 22:15 as the rod being something used to “spank”.  But since it is Proverbs, I do believe the point is not the method, but the severity of sin in a child.

Folly is bound up in the heart of a child,
but the rod of discipline drives it far from him.
(Proverbs 22:15 ESV)

Proverbs is considered the Book of Wisdom (compared to Leviticus which is the book of the law).  Our hearts are wicked and we definitely need discipline, but does this verse say we have to spank or we are not obeying God?  I just don’t see it as a command to spank, but wise instructions for a parents’ need to discipline their children.  Mr. Tripp didn’t necessarily say it was a command though (although I have seen GCMers put those words into his mouth).  And when you take the comment in light of everything else he wrote, I would think he would agree: if there is a problem where you can’t spank because of anger or some like reason, don’t spank!  He does not neglect compassion and mercy like some GCMers will try to convince you of.  GCMers really blow that one comment out of proportion because they are anti-spanking.  They blow it so far out of proportion that they have to go on a mission to tell people the book is so bad it shouldn’t even be read, so bad it should be thrown away and so bad they have to hide it in libraries and book stores.  Really, it is overkill.  They really focus on that one comment way too much.

Mr. Tripp is definitely emphasizing the need for discipline and consistency, which I whole heartedly agree with.  While I agree with his how’s of spanking in regard to any form of discipline from parents: done away from people, tell them what they have done or failed to do, remind them that discipline is not being done because you are angry but to bring about restoration, communicating with the child about exactness of what is to come, hugs and talking about why it is important to be restored, praying with reminders that in Christ there is forgiveness of sins and Jesus can help the child to obey.  What I don’t agree with is pulling down the pants.  I found that the best word to describe it for me was, “icky” – that sounds like a word GCMers would use.  If I spanked I would not do that part (I know parents who do this but I don’t think worse of them for it).  I also wouldn’t tell my child he wasn’t “sweet” enough after a spanking if he was angry.  Hebrews 12:11 says, “For the moment all discipline seems painful rather than pleasant, but later it yields the peaceful fruit of righteousness to those who have been trained by it” (ESV).  Mr. Tripp thinks as soon as the spanking is over that it is later already.  I don’t agree.  I can understand his need for starting fresh and moving on, but that can’t be done if the other one is not ready yet.  “Fathers, do not provoke your children to anger, but bring them up in the discipline and instruction of the Lord.”  (Ephesians 6:4 ESV)  Maybe that would be a good time for instruction or some time alone so you don’t provoke your child to more anger?

I must note here that Mr. Tripp does say that spanking is for the times when the child is disobeying the parent.  He does not state that it needs to be done for every sin a child commits (which I think is how the GCMer may interpret him). Therefore, I am not offended by these chapters like GCMers would be because I know when used rightly (and Mr. Tripp does use spanking as a form of teaching/discipline correctly -i.e. not in anger, to teach the child, etc.) spanking can be an effective way of discipline.  Disagreeing with a few sentences does not weigh as heavily as a book fraught with errors on every page.  There is also a big difference between an author who does not understand the gospel and one who does!

Mr. Tripp’s chapters on communication are excellent.   He also notes the difference between a punitive approach and the Biblical approach.  GCMers would believe that all spanking is punitive.  But when teaching is part of spanking it is not punitive.  The punitive approach is a way to control behavior but it doesn’t address sin, repentance and forgiveness.

I seem to recall another  trouble my sister had with this book (maybe I have remembered this incorrectly) was that parents are taught to be the Holy Spirit in the lives of their children and they always know what is in their children’s hearts.  This is not how Tedd Tripp presents it at all.  He knows that our behavior will be from what is in our hearts (see Luke 6:45), therefore we have to teach our children about sin, forgiveness through Christ, and knowing and glorifying God.   The only thing that might come close to this is on page 86.  The mother “sensed” the daughter was not really having the heart to go with her nods of agreement.  He states the mother  “administered correction” and the girl’s “resistance quickly melted behind a torrent of tears.”   If she did receive a spanking I can see why my sister would think that Tripp knows what is in his child’s hearts all the time after only “sensing” something wrong.  I don’t believe Mr. Tripp meant the girl received a spanking here because it is in the chapter on communication and he mentions Proverbs 9 which has to do with the way a mocker handles correction, rebuke and instructions.   It sounds like the mother used God’s words which the Holy Spirit used to convict the girl of her mocking and scoffing ways.

Would I recommend this book to others?  Yes, and maybe with the few minor caveats mentioned above – I don’t think there is any book out there I don’t recommend with cautions…except the Bible.  I have no problems recommending this book because Mr. Tripp definitely has a focus on the gospel at all times: forgiveness of sins through Christ Jesus!  I think the reason GCMers hate this book so much is because they believe all spanking is punitive and abusive.  This is not a book about abuse!  Far from it!  It is not a book that people need to be warned not to read.  His theology is sound even though I disagree with a few minute points of application he made.

To Spank or Not To Spank – part 3

continued from part 1 and 2

“It is not the will of God that parents, in the exercise of kindness, shall spare and corrupt their children. Let their conduct towards their children be at once mild and considerate, so as to guide them in the fear of the Lord, and correct them also when they go astray.” John Calvin

In Part 1 I said that there was a bigger problem at GCM than is spanking right or wrong.  In this conclusion I will address those concerns not to argue, but to compassionately rebuke any who may be in error.  It is not done in a hurried fashion, but after much introspection on my own sins as a parent first.  It is not to say all anti-spankers do all the below.  I am writing this to point out what I have seen in some so that there can be repentance and restoration.  To quote yet again from 1 John 1:9, but this time also verse 8:

If we say we have no sin, we deceive ourselves, and the truth is not in us.  If we confess our sins, He is faithful and just to forgive us our sins and to cleanse us from all unrighteousness. (ESV)

For this rest of this post I need to define my terms so there is no confusion.  I am going to separate out three groups of parenting.  This is not the end all be all in definitions.

Spankers: GCMers would classify all spankers as abusers it seems.  I will not do such a thing.  I do believe there is a category under spankers for abusers (as well as under each category presented below).  Those who use spanking because they are angry individuals, who cause lasting physical injury and bruises.  They don’t want to teach their children, they just want the behavior to stop.  They beat their children black and blue and may even kill them.

Then there are the spankers that see the dangers of sin and will spank according to what they believe the Bible says.

There is even a third category under spankers.  Those who will spank to teach their children not to do bad, but are not Christians.  They do not abuse their children and truly want what is best for them.

Non-spankers: For the purposes of this blog post, I am going to call people who don’t spank but are neither for or against others doing so as non-spankers.

Anti-spankers: These are the people who group all spankers into the first category above as abuser.  They can see no good from spanking and are very outspoken against all spanking.

Then there are AP (Attachment Parents) that do spank.  It is very rare.  I did find one that sounded very reasonable.  Her post on the subject can be found here.

For all categories of parents above the following Scripture applies.

Fathers, do not provoke your children to anger, but bring them up in the discipline and instruction of the Lord.  (Ephesians 6:4 ESV)
Fathers, do not provoke your children, lest they become discouraged.  (Colossians 3:21 ESV)

Even “gentle” parents may not always be doing what is best for their children.  It is very easy for parents to get angry and frustrated.  All parents, anti-spankers included, can be verbally mean to their child.  I would not call them abusers.  For I know the sinfulness of man.  It is good to have God’s word which reminds us that God forgives our sins through Jesus Christ.  Even the times we are not the best of parents! It is good to always remember the purpose of discipline (as mentioned in Part 1 and 2).  There are obviously cautions for every type of parent I mentioned above.  We should all be careful not to discipline in our anger, but discipline for the good of our child.  The non and anti-spankers would need to make sure they aren’t being permissive.  But there are some extra cautions I want to warn anti-spankers about.

1) Pride
Beware of pride in you.  Do you think you are better than someone else because you do not spank or don’t believe in spanking?

2)  Judgment
Have you spanked your child in anger before but you feel you are forgiven because you don’t believe it is right all the while not forgiving other parents who have spanked in anger because they don’t believe spanking to correct is wrong?

Be careful not to judge your brothers and sisters in Christ who spank by calling them abusers, which can lead to all sorts of harm.  A misconception that many anti-spankers have is that all spanking is an act of hate.  The parent who is lovingly correcting their child so they will see the dangers of sin do not spank with hate in their heart for their child who they are trying to raise in the instruction of the Lord!

3) Division
Should parenting techniques be a cause of division among Christians?  I don’t know of any verses that say come out from amongst the spankers.  I do know 2 Corinthians 6:14- 17 says to come out from the unbelievers (which GCMers do not do.  I do believe they let anybody on their site – except for spankers.  They say that the unbeliever can’t write anything that goes against their statement of belief, but I have not seen that enforced!!!  See Number 4 for one example.)

4) Lack of concern for sin
The GCM Statement of Belief #4 says that, “We are sinners and could never be “good enough” to make it to heaven or to please God in any way, and, without Christ, we are enemies of God and destined for eternal punishment and separation from God. Romans 3:10, 11, 12; Romans 3:21-24; Jeremiah 17:9; Isaiah 64:6; Romans 6:23a.”

This must not apply to children.  Some GCMers do not think children sin.  In this one example of a GCM forum , by page four children don’t have a sinful nature.  It easier to call it “big emotions” instead of sin.  Here are some of the excuses I have seen on anti-spanking sites.

Excuse 1:  It is just big emotions.

Excuse 2:  They are just going through a stage.

Excuse 3: Children are just being children.

We are to teach God’s law to our children.  (See also Deut 4:9-10, Deut 11: 18-20, Psalm 78:1-8 for more on teaching our children.)  We can not use the excuse of, “I sin so I can’t remove the speck in my child’s eye.”  We are to daily be repenting of our own sin!

And these words that I command you today shall be on your heart. You shall teach them diligently to your children, and shall talk of them when you sit in your house, and when you walk by the way, and when you lie down, and when you rise.  (Deuteronomy 6:6-7, ESV)

How do we know we are sinners?  The law (Romans 3:20).  If we are sinners we need a Savior.  We can be teaching our children God’s commands and by doing so teaching them they need Christ!  And as parents Deuteronomy says to do this all the time.  If we are constantly making excuses for the sins of our children, they will not know they are sinners.  If they don’t know they are sinners, they will not know they need the wonderful sacrifice of Christ for forgiveness nor will they understand  what grace is and why they need it.

In conclusion, discipline is not retribution but restorative.  You can spank in retribution but you can also spank to restore.  So called “gentle” methods can be done in anger or in love (retribution or restoration).  It boils down to what is the desire of the parent:  revenge or to see their child loving the Lord.  Let us remember the wisdom from Proverbs and Hebrews 12, sin in a child is a dangerous thing.  Parents must not gloss over sin but make sure we are teaching our children the dangers of it (whether through spanking or some other painful discipline) as well as the forgiveness that comes only through Christ’s death on the cross.  We must teach our children that sin leads to death but faith in Christ leads to life!

To Spank or Not To Spank? part 2

continued from Part 1

My son, do not despise the LORD’s discipline
or be weary of his reproof,
for the LORD reproves him whom he loves,
as a father the son in whom he delights.
(Proverbs 3:11-12 ESV)

Whoever spares the rod hates his son,
but he who loves him is diligent to discipline him.
(Proverbs 13:24 ESV)

Folly is bound up in the heart of a child,
but the rod of discipline drives it far from him.
(Proverbs 22:15 ESV)

Do not withhold discipline from a child;
if you strike him with a rod, he will not die.
If you strike him with the rod,
you will save his soul from Sheol.
(Proverbs 23:13-14 ESV)

The rod and reproof give wisdom,
but a child left to himself brings shame to his mother.
(Proverbs 29:15 ESV)

Rod-Strong’s Concordance #7626 from an unused root probably meaning to branch off; a scion, i.e. (lit.) a stick (for punishing, writing, fighting, ruling, walking, etc.) or (fig.) a clan.

Dicipline-Strong’s Concordance #4148 chastisement, reproof, warning or instruction; also restraint.  Used in Prov 3:11, 13:24, 22:15, 23:13.

Reproof-Strong’s Concordance #8433 chastisement; fig. (by words) correction, refutation, proof (even in defense).  Used in Prov 3:11, 29:15

Son- Strong’s Concordance #1121 a son (as a builder of the family name). Used in Prov 3:11-12, 13:24

Child-Strong’s Concordance #5288 Na’ar a boy (as act.), from the age of infancy to adolescence; by impl. a servant; also (by interch. of sex), a girl (of similar latitude in age). Used in Prov 22:15, 23:13, 29:15.  I highlighted the age because many anti-spankers use the word incorrectly to say that all the above verses are referring to an older child.  Exodus 2:6 is referring to the baby Moses in the basket.  Isaiah 7:16 is referring to a child before he shall know to refuse the evil and choose the good.  Genesis 21:20 refers to Ishmael shortly after he was weaned.  2 Samuel 18:5 refers to Absalom being a child during his uprising against his father.  These are just a few of the examples that show this word covers a vast age range.

What does discipline in the book of Proverbs give: it brings honor (Proverbs 1:8-9), life (Proverbs 4:13) and wisdom (Proverbs 8:33).  Ignoring instruction results in death (Proverbs 5:23), poverty and disgrace (Proverbs 13:18), hating one’s self (Proverbs 15:32).

I quote Matthew Henry below for two reasons.  One is I have seen an anti-spanker quote at length from Mr. Henry so I am assuming anti-spankers have respect for the man.  The other reason is to explain many of the verses above because I have seen terrible explanations of them from GCMers/anti-spankers.  To which I must say what R.C. Sproul says:

“Although tradition does not rule our interpretation, it does guide it. If upon reading a particular passage you have come up with an interpretation that has escaped the notice of every other Christian for two-thousand years, or has been championed by universally recognized heretics, chances are pretty good that you had better abandon your interpretation.” – R. C. Sproul (emphasis added)

Matthew Henry Commentary on Proverbs 22:15:
“We have here two very sad considerations:—1. That corruption is woven into our nature. Sin is foolishness; it is contrary both to our right reason and to our true interest. It is in the heart; there is an inward inclination to sin, to speak and act foolishly. It is in the heart of children; they bring it into the world with them; it is what they were shapen and conceived in. It is not only found there, but it is bound there; it is annexed to the heart (so some); vicious dispositions cleave closely to the soul, are bound to it as the cion to the stock into which it is grafted, which quite alters the property. There is a knot tied between the soul and sin, a true lover’s knot; they two became one flesh. It is true of ourselves, it is true of our children, whom we have begotten in our own likeness. O God! thou knowest this foolishness. 2. That correction is necessary to the cure of it. It will not be got out by fair means and gentle methods; there must be strictness and severity, and that which will cause grief. Children need to be corrected, and kept under discipline, by their parents; and we all need to be corrected by our heavenly Father (Heb. 12:6, 7), and under the correction we must stroke down folly and kiss the rod.”

Here are other commentaries on Proverbs 22:15

Geneva Study Bible: Foolishness [is] bound l in the heart of a child; [but] the rod of correction shall drive it far from him. (l) He is naturally given to it.

John Gill’s Exposition of the Bible: Foolishness [is] bound in the heart of a child. That is, sin, the greatest of all folly; this is naturally in the heart of man; it is in the heart of a child, it is in him from his infancy; it is bound in his heart, it is rooted and riveted in him, being conceived in sin, and shapen in iniquity; it is what cleaves close to him, and he has a strong affection for and desire after: the imagination of man’s heart is evil from his youth, ( Genesis 8:21 ) ; so that he is not easily brought off of sin, or becomes wise; [but] the rod of correction shall drive it far from him; the rod used by parents, for the correction of sin and folly, is a means of making children wise, and of restraining the folly that is bound up in them; and of reclaiming them from those sinful ways, which the folly of their hearts leads them to, and so in some measure of driving it far from them.

Wesley’s Explanatory Notes: Bound – Is fixed and settled there, as being born with him, and rooted in his very nature.

Commentary Critical and Explanatory on the Whole Bible: 15. is bound–or firmly fixed. Chastisement deters from crime and so leads to reformation of principle.

The following quotes are all from Matthew Henry.  They are lengthy so to sum up: A parent is to instruct his children in the Scriptures.  Foolishness is in the heart of children.  Although it is not pleasant but grievous at the time, it is for the child’s good when a loving parent rebukes and reproves and uses the rod of correction to show them the seriousness of sin and hell.

Proverbs 13:24
1. To the education of children in that which is good there is necessary a due correction of them for what is amiss; every child of ours is a child of Adam, and therefore has that foolishness bound up in its heart which calls for rebuke, more or less, the rod and reproof which give wisdom. Observe, It is his rod that must be used, the rod of a parent, directed by wisdom and love, and designed for good, not the rod of a servant. 2. It is good to begin betimes with the necessary restraints of children from that which is evil, before vicious habits are confirmed. The branch is easily bent when it is tender. 3. Those really hate their children, though they pretend to be fond of them, that do not keep them under a strict discipline, and by all proper methods, severe ones when gentle ones will not serve, make them sensible of their faults and afraid of offending. They abandon them to their worst enemy, to the most dangerous disease, and therefore hate them. Let this reconcile children to the correction their good parents give them; it is from love, and for their good, Heb. 12:7 – 9.

Proverbs 23:12-14
Here is, 1. A parent instructing his child. He is here brought in persuading him to give his mind to his book, and especially to the scriptures and his catechism, to attend to the words of knowledge, by which he might come to know his duty, and danger, and interest, and not to think it enough to give them the hearing, but to apply his heart to them, to delight in them, and bow his will to the authority of them. The heart is then applied to the instruction when the instruction is applied to the heart. 2. A parent correcting his child. A tender parent can scarcely find in his heart to do this; it goes much against the grain. But he finds it is necessary; it is his duty, and therefore he dares not withhold correction when there is occasion for it (spare the rod and spoil the child); he beats him with the rod, gives him a gentle correction, the stripes of the sons of men, not such as we give to beasts. Beat him with the rod and he shall not die. The rod will not kill him; nay, it will prevent his killing himself by those vicious courses which the rod will be necessary to restrain him from. For the present it is not joyous, but grievous, both to the parent and to the child; but when it is given with wisdom, designed for good, accompanied with prayer, and blessed of God, it may prove a happy means of preventing his utter destruction and delivering his soul from hell. Our great care must be about our children’s souls; we must not see them in danger of hell without using all possible means, with the utmost care and concern, to snatch them as brands out of everlasting burnings. Let the body smart, so that the spirit be saved in the day of the Lord Jesus. 3. A parent encouraging his child, telling him, (1.) What was all he expected, nothing but what would be for his own good, that his heart be wise and that his lips speak right things, that he be under the government of good principles, and that by those principles he particularly maintain a good environment of his tongue. It is to be hoped that those will do right things when they grow up who learn to speak right things when they are young, and dare not speak any bad words. (2.) What a comfort it would be to him if herein he answered his expectation: “If thy heart be wise, my heart shall rejoice, shall rejoice in thee, even mine, who have taken so much care and pains about thee, my heart, that has many a time ached for thee, for which thou shouldst study thus to make a grateful requital.’’ Note, The wisdom of children will be the joy of their parents and teachers, who have no greater joy than to see them walk in the truth, 3 Jn. 4, . “Children, if you be wise and good, devout and conscientious, God will be pleased with you, and that will be our joy: we shall think our labour in instructing you well bestowed; it will be a comfortable answer for the many prayers we have put up for you; we shall be eased of a great deal of care, shall not need to be so strict and severe in watching over you, and shall consequently be the easier both to you and to ourselves. We shall rejoice in hope that you will be a credit and comfort to us, if we should live to be old, that you will bear up the name of Christ in your generation, that you will live comfortably in this world and happily in another.’’

Proverbs 29:15
Verse 15 Parents, in educating their children, must consider, 1. The benefit of due correction. They must not only tell their children what is good and evil, but they must chide them, and correct them too, if need be, when they either neglect that which is good or do that which is evil. If a reproof will serve without the rod, it is well, but the rod must never be used without a rational and grave reproof; and then, though it may be a present uneasiness both to the father and to the child, yet it will give wisdom. Vexatio dat intellectum—Vexation sharpens the intellect. The child will take warning, and so will get wisdom. 2. The mischief of undue indulgence: A child that is not restrained or reproved, but is left to himself, as Adonijah was, to follow his own inclinations, may do well if he will, but, if he take to ill courses, nobody will hinder him; it is a thousand to one but he proves a disgrace to his family, and brings his mother, who fondled him and humoured him in his licentiousness, to shame, to poverty, to reproach, and perhaps will himself be abusive to her and give her ill language.

…to be continued.

Excellent Article on Abuse

Rick Thomas has done it again!  He posted a most excellent article he and Tracy Keen wrote about abuse.  It is not only about rejoicing with those who rejoice and weeping with those who weep, but the need for the gospel for everybody- the abuser and the abused as well as the family of both.

Here is a link to the article, Practical thoughts on how to enter into the prison of a person’s pain.