Monthly Archives: December 2013

Two Very Different Endings

The following two stories are about the same husband and wife.  For this example, the woman will be a believer and the man will not be.  The first story will go through this fictitious scenario from a biblical perspective.  The latter will be from a GCM perspective.

A wife is unhappy in her marriage.  She is getting more and more depressed not understanding what is wrong.  Some people start making comments about the behavior of her husband and how badly he treats her.  She starts to realize that she is being verbally attacked on a day-to-day basis.  The stress is too much for her to handle.  This unhappy wife wants to please God.  She stays.  She tries hard to do what is right.  It is not working.  Finally, she decides to leave.  She wants to reconcile but she also knows she can not continue living with her husband in this way.  During their separation (be it a month or more), the husband calls once a day.  They e-mail regularly.  He comes to see her once a week.  The husband, by this point, has realized all was not well or his wife would not have left.  They discuss the way they fight.  She realizes that she tried to control too much of his life.  He starts to realize he shouldn’t yell.  She decides it is time to move back in and see if things will be different.  Things are different, but by no means ideal.  They have a rough couple of years, but she has a new outlook.  Instead of taking all the abuse or any of the various things she did or did not do in the past, she does things differently.  She stops trying to control every situation.  During the separation, she realized she does truly love this man.  She recognizes that he doesn’t know how to deal with the stresses of his life much like she didn’t know how to deal the stresses of her life (i.e. her husband).  She knows his stress should not be taken out on her and that she is not a doormat.  She doesn’t need to be treated this way.  She also realizes they are both sinners, the only difference is she is a saved sinner.  She does not do things for him out of fear like she used to, but now out of love.  Her compassion for him has grown because she recognizes the undeserved compassion that Jesus has showered on her.  She wants to see him be a better man and husband.  She has patience with him knowing that God has had to have a lot of patience with her over her lifetime.  Slowly through the next couple of years, he starts responding to all that kindness and love showered on him.  Slowly he stops reacting and starts to listen.  Before they know it (but after a lot of hard work) they are enjoying each others company.  They are getting along.  Their disagreements aren’t pleasant, but what disagreements are?  But shouting matches are a thing of the past.  They work alongside each other.  They love each other.  They are patient with each other (for the most part).  They are kind to one another (for the most part – hey, they are two sinners living together).  She forgave and moved on.  She thanks God for her blessings.

A wife is unhappy in her marriage.  She is getting more and more depressed not understanding what is wrong.  Her GCM friends tell her she is being abused.  She believes what they are saying is true.  She takes their advice and leaves her husband to go live safely with another GCMer.  She restricts contact with her husband to only one e-mail once a week.  He thought everything was okay.  Not great, but okay.  He doesn’t understand so he calls to question her so he can understand.  She accuses him of being abusive for not sticking to her boundary of e-mail only communication.  She becomes more controlling and because of the advice from GCMers, she then restricts e-mails to only discussions of bills and children.  Meanwhile, she is attending abuse counseling and reading Why Does He Do That? by Lundy Bancroft.  As she reads she gets more depressed.  She now believes she was sexually abused, financially abused, spiritually abused.  Her GCM friends encourage her to drink to ease the pain.  She does.  Her GCM friends encourage her to do body piercings and different body mutilations to help with the healing process.  She does.  Meanwhile, the husband realizes he was not good to her like he should have been.  He attends counseling.  Something doesn’t seem quite right though.  He asks her questions about her friends.  The wife is very unhappy about this.  She can not get away from his questions (in her mind, abuse) so she files for divorce.  Her family start questioning her new behaviors.  She quickly shuts them out of her life.   She now believes her family is abusive and toxic.  The divorce is finalized.  She spends her time trying to heal from all the abuse from childhood she just started remembering.  But her memories by this time are distorted and she thinks any sin against her is/was abusive and unforgivable.  Everyone else is toxic; old friends, the court system, social workers.  Her only friends are GCMers.  They have gone through all of this too.  They know the pain.  Only they understand.  She spends the rest of her life trying to heal from all her abuse.  She is alone.  She is bitter.  Nothing she did to her husband or family were wrong because she was the victim of abuse.  All the men that come into her life turn out to be abusers too because they realize she is controlling and they don’t want to be micro-managed.  She is never truly happy and blames God for all her troubles (as well as her family and ex-husband).

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It’s About the Cross

MERRY CHRISTMAS!

A great song by the Go Fish Guys to help refocus our attention on Christ this holiday season.

 

Excellent Interviews

Chris Rosebrough, from Fighting for the Faith, interviewed Jovan MacKenzy and Ivey Conerly , two theologically sound rap singers.  They were two of the best interviews I have heard in awhile.  I have attempted to take notes.  Did you know it is hard to take notes on an interview?  I did the best I could to give you some of the highlights of both interviews.  You can click on the links below and listen for yourself!

Click here to listen to the Jovan interview.
From December 5, 3013 at about the 1 hour 33 minute mark.

  • “I am more afraid of my own heart than of the pope and all his cardinals.  I have within me, the great pope, self.”  Martin Luther
  • Jovan’s newest album is The Seduction of Self.
  • Sin comes from being seduced by the love of self.  Jovan
  • “Take my sinful flesh daily and drown it in the waters of baptism.”  Chris
  • “Our good works, our best ones, are as appealing as a used maxi pad.”  Chris
  • Even if you are right and someone is dead wrong, you don’t need to rebuke them unless you realize you are just as sinful or worse.
  • We need Christ everyday!
  • Our mind is corrupt compared to Christ.  Our hope is in Christ and not in our good works.
  • Who can come to the Lord’s supper? Those who understand they need to be forgiven.
  • God does not bless me according to my works.  His blessings come from His mercy.
  • We repent of our unrighteousness, but we also need to repent of our righteousness – thinking OUR works are good enough.
  • “The Christian life is one of suffering.”  Chris
  • “Everything goes back to the cross.”  Jovan
  • God forbid we sin so grace can increase.
  • Even though we sin, we are perfect in Christ.  It is all because of Christ.
  • We are in Christ.  And although we fail everyday, Christ didn’t.  He defeated sin!
  • We can be patient with others.  We need to pray for them.
  • We can forgive because we have been forgiven.
  • It is our pride that makes us unable to forgive others.
  • If God shows mercy, you can show mercy.  Not the other way around.  Just like forgiveness.  God forgives so we can forgive.  It is not we show mercy so God shows mercy or we forgive so God forgives.

Click here to listen to Ivey Conerly’s interview.
From December 10, 2013.  Interview starts at about the 1 hour 8 minute mark.

Ivey’s album, Justice System, was about the gospel and justification

  • There is a need for Christians to always hear the gospel.
  • Constantly need to hear about the work of Christ.
  • From Genesis to Revelation, it’s about the gospel.
  • The Holy Spirit in us helps us to live out the commandments of God.
  • We don’t always keep the commandments, so we find ourselves always at the foot of the cross.

Ivey’s newest album, Unknown God, helps the listener to understand who God is.

  • Acts 17
  • People have a concept of God.  They don’t really know who He is.
  • Idolatry of our day is not gods made of stone.
  • They named idols people make: possessions, family, their own self-image, pastors, actors.
  • This album points people to the living and true God, Jesus Christ.
  • It is a fearful thing to fall into the hands of the living God. (Hebrews 10:31)
  • Christ is NOT okay with your sin.
  • God is gracious and merciful and compassionate, but He is also a just God.
  • We should fear and bow the knee to Him.
  • Repent and believe the gospel.
  • May it never be that we sin more so grace can increase. (see Romans 6:1)
  • History of rap, interesting stories of St. Patrick and Martin Luther finished off this interview.

Build a god

The following video is taken from the radio program, Fighting For the Faith.  It explains what many people do with God.  This is what I see coming from the GCM website.  Many of them have their own versions of god.  They make a god in their own image, after their own heart’s desires.  If this is you, please, repent of your idolatry and trust in the Jesus of the Bible for the forgiveness of sins.