“Gentle Christian” Mothers allows anyone on as long as they don’t believe spanking is okay. They can be Christian, Mormon, Catholic, Psuedo-Christian, anything but a spanker. Considering the name has Christian in it, let’s take a look at what God says.
Do not be unequally yoked with unbelievers. For what partnership has righteousness with lawlessness? Or what fellowship has light with darkness? What accord has Christ with Belial? Or what portion does a believer share with an unbeliever? (2 Cor 6:14-15, ESV)
Inclusivity only leads to problems. If we would read and obey Scripture we would know the dangers.
For the wisdom of this world is foolishness in God’s sight. (1 Corinthians 3:19 NIV)
You might say, “It is just parenting advice!” Oh, but parenting advice from non-Christians is always devoid of biblical truths from scripture. We are to raise our children to know God and His word. We are to teach them the dangers of sin, the amazing grace of our God, His mercy and forgiveness, and walking in His ways. Too infrequently will there be any talk of such things on GCM. Most advice has to do with the latest pop psychology studies devoid of mentioning the dreaded word – sin. The foundation laid at GCM is that children have age appropriateness (I can’t remember the term GCMers always use). There is nothing wrong with recognizing that a 3 year old can’t do the dishes but a 13 year old can. There is nothing wrong with recognizing that the older a child gets, the more he understands. But when age appropriateness and developmental milestones take the place of biblical truths, then there is a problem. Outbursts of anger become “big feelings” instead of sin that needs to be addressed. Mammas just have “big feelings” too so instead of asking Christ to forgive them, they just remind each other to, “give yourself grace.” What is missing in parenting on GCM is Christ. Every once in a while He gets an honorable mention, but He is far from the focus at GCM.
Instead of seeking godly counsel when women are having problems in their marriage or with their family, the fellowship of unbelievers says to divorce and never talk to your family again. I have heard from many formers who all said similar things: there was a lot of husband bashing going on, convincing wives they are abused so that everyone started getting divorced, people were encouraged to leave husband, friends and family over minor disagreements.
Blessed is the man
who walks not in the counsel of the wicked,
nor stands in the way of sinners,
nor sits in the seat of scoffers;
(Psalm 1:1 ESV)
Wordliness, carnality and indifference to sin are becoming the norms at GCM. How did that happen? Fellowship with unbelievers. The god of this age blinds (2 Cor 4:4) them from the truth of the gospel.
You adulterous people! Do you not know that friendship with the world is enmity with God? Therefore whoever wishes to be a friend of the world makes himself an enemy of God. (James 4:4, ESV)
The owner of GCM once told me this about the way things work on GCM. “Many different viewpoints may be expressed on the board. We just ask that members respect the statement of beliefs and not post in a way which promotes beliefs which are contrary to our statement of beliefs and we ask that they follow the posting guidelines.” And restated in the same e-mail to me, “Again, as I mentioned, we ask that members respect the statement of beliefs and not post in a way which promotes beliefs which are contrary to our statement of beliefs and we ask that they follow the posting guidelines.” Some one I know looked on the public forum before and told me it had the makings of a cult, he couldn’t see from the public that it was. He also mentioned a lot of the bad theology he saw.
The following quote is from a lady named Beth on Camille’s facebook page (I have no idea who these people are. All I know from reading on facebook is Camille is a former GCMer who had problems with GCM). From the sounds of it, Beth clicked on a GCM link for the first time. This is what she said about it, “So having lurked a few threads, this is what I have come away with. One thread of someone complaining about a remark her husband made. Rather than discussing this issue with him, she went to a forum of strangers to complain and gain affirmation/ammunition from them. NO ONE in the forum suggests she talk it out with her husband. Other threads appear to be people looking for others to help them make what should be simple decisions. There seems to be an atmosphere of undue dependence on the opinions of the group. Not good. So that’s just what I’ve gathered from a brief period of lurking.” Wow, she saw that after just a tiny bit of time gandering around! And none of the people in charge at GCM can see this???
“We are being light.” If GCM would argue this, that they think they are doing a good thing by allowing non-Christians on the site, they are mistaken.* I really don’t know if they think this or not, but this thought is often seen in Christianity today, being light to non-Christians by bringing them into close fellowship with believers. As all the above verses mention that doesn’t work. If GCM was actually a gospel centered place then non-Christians would be able to read the public forum pages and learn about godly parenting (BTW, non-Christians wouldn’t learn much of anything on GCM about biblical parenting or the gospel because they have strayed so far from the statement of belief.)
* Now I know where this came from. The former GCMer mentioned it in the guest post. Read it HERE. (This was updated May 2, 2014)