The gospel is the power of God for salvation to everyone who believes Christ died for their sins and rose from the dead. Rick Thomas wrote about this topic in The reason I stopped hating my dad. It makes me sad to think of some GCMers living in hatred of their husbands/family members/anybody because of the wrongs others have done to them. I hope you will read Rick’s article and see the love of a Savior who died for you even though you are a sinner and not worthy of such kindness. Through Christ’s death and resurrection we have forgiveness of sins and we no longer have to live with hatred for those who sin against us. Read the article to see how Rick handled having a father who was a drunkard until the power of God changed him.
Below are a few quotes from the article.
“My father was a sinner who sinned—for all have sinned (Romans 3:23).”
“But he was not the only unrighteous person in our family. I, too, chose an unrighteous path. The sin that was passed down to him was passed down to me. I was just like my father—there is none righteous, no not one (Romans 3:10-12).”
“For many years I spent more time thinking about what my dad did wrong to me than what I did wrong to God. This kind of thinking is self-induced poisoning of the soul.”
“As I began to come to terms with the Gospel as it applied to my dysfunctional childhood, I began to see. The angry fog began to lift. I was a self-righteous victim—a deadly duo. A self-righteous victim is more aware of and irritated by the sins of someone else, rather than being more conscious of and more grieved by their own sin.” (Emphasis added)
“There is nothing that has ever happened to you or to me that is more evil than the sin we have committed against God.”
“It no longer mattered who did what. The real issue for me was whether I would humble my heart before Almighty God and plead for His forgiveness for the crimes I had committed.”
GCMer, if you are struggling in any of your relationships then a good place to start would be to confess your own sins to God, repent and believe the good news that Christ died for you. If you are still struggling with hate then the second best option is to go to The Counseling Solutions Group Inc. This counseling is through Rick Thomas even though he doesn’t do much counseling himself. If Mr. Thomas recommends these counselors then they should be good; in other words you shouldn’t get modern psychobabble from them but a biblical view of your problems and biblical solutions. GCMers, if you are having a hard time with a relationship in your life, why don’t you contact them today? And may you one day be able to say as Rick did, “It no longer mattered who did what. The real issue for me was whether I would humble my heart before Almighty God and plead for His forgiveness for the crimes I had committed.”